Lo Yachlu Dabro L’Shalom

פרשת וישב
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Written by:
Rabbi Rick Schindelheim
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ג וְיִשְׂרָאֵל אָהַב אֶת-יוֹסֵף מִכָּל-בָּנָיו--כִּי-בֶן-זְקֻנִים הוּא לוֹ וְעָשָׂה לוֹ, כְּתֹנֶת פַּסִּים.  

ד וַיִּרְאוּ אֶחָיו כִּי-אֹתוֹ אָהַב אֲבִיהֶם מִכָּל-אֶחָיו--וַיִּשְׂנְאוּ אֹתוֹ וְלֹא יָכְלוּ דַּבְּרוֹ לְשָׁלֹם.


ולא יכלו דברו לשלום. מִתּוֹךְ גְּנוּתָם לָמַדְנוּ שִׁבְחָם, שֶׁלֹּא דִבְּרוּ אַחַת בַּפֶּה וְאַחַת בַּלֵּב:

  1. What details in the פסוק (not רשי) stand out to you? What would you like to know more about?
  2. Who, in these פסוקים can you relate to or identify with most? Why? Who do you have the most difficulty relating to or identifying with? Why?


  3. According to רש”י how should we categorize the behavior of יוסף’s brothers? (Hint: it’s complicated!)
  4. What happens when someone is “אַחַת בַּפֶּה וְאַחַת בַּלֵּב”? How does it affect them? Their relationships?
  5. When do you or have you struggled to be “פיו ולב שווים” (speech and heart aligned) as opposed to אַחַת בַּפֶּה וְאַחַת בַּלֵּב? What made that difficult and how did that affect you?

מִתּוֹךְ גְּנוּתָם לָמַדְנוּ שִׁבְחָם - What examples can you think of in which you learn something positive about a person based on something negative that they do/have done? (You can certainly be your own example!)

Notes to the teacher

  • This is the place to make suggestions to the teacher of different ways they may choose to facilitate this limmud
  • Or particular grade levels or sensitivities to take into account
  • Or anything else you think is important for the teacher to know

עבודת המורה

  • This is the place to raise some questions that make sure the teacher tests the limmud on themselves or others
  • Could be a general question like - which part of the limmud resonated most for you? Which question was the hardest for you to answer?
  • Or questions anticipating students’ responses- What do you think students will say for X or Y? To what extent are you open to being surprised?
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